For years this has been the mantra, if you have been labeled an addict or alcoholic you probably know exactly what I’m talking about. You get sober, maybe through rehab or through your own will power. Yet you realize this isn’t enough. That void is still there. The one that caused you to drink or do drugs in the first place and it’s stronger than ever.
You see, we aren’t low life druggies and drunks. We aren’t uniquely suffering from a disease. We are suffering from a disease yes, but it’s not unique. It’s a disease every human being has been suffering from since the beginning of time. What is it? Brace your selves because I am about to use a taboo word in our politically correct culture. It’s called sin.
We all have this void. We all choose to deal with it in different ways, only some ways are more harmful than others. Think about this, if you have been labeled an addict, sent away to get ‘fixed’, told to abandon all of your old friends (isolate yourself) and then spend the rest of your days going to meetings where you have to keep reminding yourself that you aren’t Bob, or Susan, or Crissy, you are an addict. Where is the hope? I don’t know about you, but I don’t plan on spending my days staring down at the ground and telling myself I am sick beyond repair.
In other words, this is who you will always be. You have been dealt a bad hand in life, and you just have to accept it. Then, they try to twist it into somehow being hopeful and give you shiny little badges when you meet a certain number of days sober. Doesn’t sound very hopeful to me. Actually, if I may be a snowflake here for a second, it sounds offensive more than anything else.
What is so ironic about this is that the whole system misses the point. Why should you get a badge for staying sober for 90 days? Is the goal really just to stay sober? Or is the goal to find and fix the underlying issue that keeps pushing you out of sobriety? By the way, we aren’t the only ones. We are just a ‘special type’ at least according to our current culture. Because working 80 hour weeks, neglecting your family and having a big house with nice cars has become normal in our society. Here is the thing, it’s not. Working to the point that it is putting strain on your family life is not normal. Working constantly is not just for the people who actually have to in order to get by either. This is a problem for people who in many cases, have millions already! They aren’t working because they want whats best for their family, to put food on the table, to make sure their children have what they need. They are working because they are addicted to those little green pieces of paper. Every day they go out, and they work tirelessly to find a way to get that next fix. Sound familiar?
So why don’t we send them to rehab? It’s funny, I have never heard of a treatment center for guys who make a lot of money and work too much. It’s because they are a functioning ‘addict’. They can take care of themselves, at least on a ‘being independent and off the streets’ way, and they pay their taxes. Which hey, I commend that.
But why are they doing this? They do it for the same exact reason you smoke pot, or Bob drinks, or whoever does whatever. It’s all to fill that void. It’s all to try to dampen the pain of sin. The pain of knowing that when we really take a moment to sit quietly and think, we might remember that we are alone. That we aren’t being who we were meant to be. So what we all do, no matter what you choose to use to do it with, is self-medicate. Some of us do it illegally. Some of us go to the doctor and get that prescription, myself included.
Now here is the thing, and I really want you to think deeply about this one. Search your heart for a moment. How many things have your tried to abuse in your life to try to fill that void? Done thinking? Good, here is my next question. How many of them worked? My guess is, if you are being honest with yourself, the answer is zero. Not a single one has been successful at filling that void. So we keep trying higher dosages, more alcohol, more work, more sex.
Albert Einstein defined insanity like this, “Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”, and that is exactly what we are doing when we try the next fix, or try more of the current one. We have tried a million times, we know it doesn’t work. Yet, we do it anyways because this time, it has to work. That is when the downward cycle starts. So, how do you put an end to it? Identify the problem.
The problem is that we have no hope. Where can you find true, authentic hope? I mean, big hope too. Hope that says, “not only can you get out of this, you can heal completely. Not only can you get out of this, you can come out better than you were before it all started. You can take away the pain, and then on top of it, live the life you were meant to live.” That type of hope. This is where I would like to introduce you to what you have been desperately looking for your entire life. The thing that can and will actually fill that void completely and permanently.
Though sadly his name has been used and abused to lead many away from him. Believe me, I would know. I thought it was a complete joke and anyone who could believe such a thing must be stupid for 27 years of my life (I am 29 by the way). His name is Jesus, and no this is not a joke. I will talk more on this in my next post, but I will leave you with this. Jesus is not a religion. He is not the church you drive by on the way to school and work. He is not the angry people on T.V. and he is not your angry pastor. Jesus is love. Truth personified, and he reaches people in only the way they can understand. Jesus is a real objective person who is their in real and painful situations. Jesus is an intimate relationship. In fact, He will be the closest one you have ever had. You know, that one you have been trying to find in other relationships on Tinder or at the bar. Only Jesus is the real deal. His love is unconditional, powerful, forgiving, understanding, gentle and most of all, true. Jesus is your friend, and yes, He can and will fill that void.